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We’re gonna talk about burnout, and if you’ve made it to this blog, you are burnt the F out! I’m not talking about the kind of elevated, day-to-day stress that you can fix by going on a beach vacation, putting your feet in the sand, and having someone bring you a blended beverage. I’m talking about the type of emotional exhaustion that makes you sigh the moment your alarm goes off, knowing you got way less sleep than you actually need. I’m talking about the feeling of being d

We all know that incredibly familiar phrase, “comparison is the thief of joy.” While comparison often makes us feel inadequate, we talk far less about how it can make us question whether our own experiences are even valid. And what is one of the biggest contributors to this comparison? Social media. People post the highlights of what they want to be seen. These are the glamorous parts of their lives, and sometimes, even the curated highlights of their suffering. You can utili

We have all been in that moment where everything seems to be messed up and you feel deflated, hopeless, and all motivation to continue moving forward goes out the window. For most of us, it is easy to access anger as our initial response. Society has conditioned us to let anger be the universal emotion that everyone can understand and access. What’s the problem with anger? It is a surface-level emotion. It presents like the top of an iceberg, hiding the depths of what is actu

How to reconnect with yourself after years of putting everyone else's needs first. Everyone knows you as the person to go to when they need something done right. The one they can depend on in a pinch, to know they will say or do things without asking multiple times, the “yes” person that will go out of their way to help anyone regardless of what they have going on in their lives. This pattern of living for others and people-pleasing is something many of us learned from a yo

If your motivation is on the floor and you’re tired of "white-knuckling" your way through the day, read this. We've all heard the phrase, "You can't pour from an empty cup." But here's the thing: Your cup isn't just empty. It's sitting in the sink with a mystery film on it, waiting for someone else to wash it. Help isn't coming. And it's been sitting there every week for the last four months. Welcome to burnout. Take a moment and think of the first three words that come to

3 blunt, practical steps to manage health anxiety, prep your agenda, and survive our broken medical system. So you want to be better prepared for your next doctor's appointment? Here’s a few small steps leaving you more prepared and less anxious. One of the first things I do with any and all of my clients is ask them about their healthcare providers and how they feel about their healthcare team. I prioritize working in multidisciplinary care because, let’s be honest, for ma

Why hustle culture has lied to you about motivation, and how to bypass the shame spiral when you are burnt TF out. Paint the scene: You’ve been building a to-do list all week. This weekend was finally going to be the weekend you tackled the one task haunting your thoughts as you try to fall asleep. Saturday arrives. But the motivation you relied on to make progress is gone. In its place is a familiar shame spiral. Self-blame takes over, leaving you doom scrolling on your ph

This is an extra post this week because I had it on my heart to speak to the dead dad club directly. As a long-time member, I know that there are times of year that just hurt a little differently. Father’s Day is absolutely one of those times for me. Your loss may have happened at a different stage in life, one thing stays true for anyone that has lost a parent: you try to embody as many qualities of your person as possible to keep part of them alive in you. As I’ve lived my

The ones who seem to have it all together are often working the hardest to hide that they don’t. We all know that person: The one who is killing it in the workplace and crying in the car on the way home. The one treating their life like a search engine, constantly looking for ways to optimize every minute, even if it means skipping lunch to get more done. That one friend that everyone relies on that never asks for help for themselves. We look at these people and think, “The

You're not alone in questioning if you're good enough to be in your profession. Ever catch yourself wondering if you really belong in your profession? You're far from alone in this experience. As a Kansas City therapist helping people live Life Your Way, I see imposter syndrome show up in all kinds of careers, even among those who seem confident and successful on the outside. Let's keep it real: self-doubt is more common than you think and it doesn't mean you're any less capa